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  Table of Contents

  Title Page

  Dedication

  Introduction

  CHAPTER ONE

  CHAPTER TWO

  CHAPTER THREE

  CHAPTER FOUR

  CHAPTER FIVE

  CHAPTER SIX

  CHAPTER SEVEN

  CHAPTER EIGHT

  CHAPTER NINE

  CHAPTER TEN

  CHAPTER ELEVEN

  CHAPTER TWELVE

  CHAPTER THIRTEEN

  CHAPTER FOURTEEN

  CHAPTER FIFTEEN

  CHAPTER SIXTEEN

  CHAPTER SEVENTEEN

  CHAPTER EIGHTEEN

  EPILOGUE

  Acknowledgments

  Copyright Page

  To Wray, who makes the sun rise and set every day

  INTRODUCTION

  She pulled to the side of the road and told me to get out. “Find your own way home. And another place to live while you’re at it.”

  With a deep breath, I pushed the release button on my seatbelt and slowly tumbled out. This had been coming for years. I almost welcomed it. I was relieved that it had finally happened, and I wouldn’t have to wonder when anymore. I’d watched my mom throw my older sister out of the car countless times. Tiffany would walk sadly, pathetically, along the sidewalk until my mom finally circled the car around and picked her up, waiting longer and driving farther each time, to intensify the humiliation.

  Now it was my turn. I was eight years old.

  I watched the car disappear into the distance and then around the corner. I had mouthed off. Even as I did it, I knew I was baiting the shark.

  The moment the brown station wagon was out of sight, I ran up onto the golf course that bordered the suburban street and lay down behind a bush. This was my turf, where my sister and I had stolen golf balls in play and then hidden while their owners searched furiously for them. The same spot where we’d sold watered-down, bitter lemonade to initially charmed, then disappointed players. I knew every blade of grass.

  Mom took her time, but, eventually, she circled back looking for me. No, I was not slowly walking along the sidewalk, sulking the way Tiffany did.

  My face slowly flushed as I saw Mom drive by a second time, looking increasingly frantic. She circled the block a third time as I lay there, paralyzed. I wanted to run out from my hiding place, but I knew she would be so furious, there would be no happy ending. What did I want? An apology from her for throwing me out of the car? Maybe just an end to the domination. It didn’t matter. I was hiding in the grass of the Porter Ranch Golf Course, and I couldn’t picture how the deadlock would end.

  The station wagon stopped circling. I looked at the empty street with a rush of victory. I didn’t know what to do next, but then again, neither did she. I drifted off to sleep, then awoke with a start, and the bizarre reality of what had happened flooded back. Without a watch, I had no idea how much time had passed since I’d left the car, but it was growing dark and I was starving.

  The long walk home stretched out in front of me, with an uncertain reception at its end. I turned homeward anyway. I had no money. I didn’t have a jacket. I hadn’t planned to run away from home.

  Pausing at the mouth of our quiet cul-de-sac, I racked my brain for other options. There were none.

  As quietly as I could, I turned the painted gold knob on our large, brown oak Spanish-style front doors. If you held the doorknob and pushed at the same time, the door swung open silently. I wasn’t ready to announce my return. I heard both my parents talking in the kitchen. I decided to show myself and get it over with. Whatever “it” was.

  Casually I strode through the narrow doorway into the kitchen, my father to my right, in his usual spot, drinking a glass of wine and talking. Mom was straight in front of me, facing him with her back to the sink. Dad didn’t really look in my direction as my sneakers squeaked across the tile floor, but kept talking as if he didn’t notice the sudden electric charge in the air, as if he didn’t know that his younger daughter had been missing somewhere in the California suburbs for the better part of four hours. Clearly, he hadn’t been informed.

  I walked to the fridge, as casually as I could, my pounding heart muffling Dad’s words in my ears. Mom locked eyes with me. A look passed over her face, a mixture of relief, anger, and what I chose to interpret as a shred of respect.

  “What are you doing?” she asked in a voice laced with so many other questions. Who was going to tell on whom?

  “I’m hungry. I’m going to take a sandwich to the TV room.” Drunk with fear and triumph, I felt my fingers tremble as I smeared peanut butter on an English muffin. I hated the prospect of cold bread, but I didn’t have the stomach to wait fifty years for the toaster to work. I slapped a lid on my sandwich and walked out of the room before my legs crumbled beneath me.

  No. I was not Tiffany. I was not the same.

  This was half my life. When we were at home, my sister and I lived in a state of constant wariness, always reading Mom’s mood and bracing for impact when that mood turned ominous. She was mercurial, domineering, but also devoted. She took her job of molding us into outstanding examples of young American girlhood very seriously, and she brooked no nonsense when we resisted her efforts. We were treated to riding lessons, skating lessons, the best schools my parents could afford. But her vigilance was also a leash, one she could pull tight enough to strangle.

  In the other half of my life, Mom and I were allies. She had established for both Tiffany and me thriving careers as child actors, and in that context her ambition for us—her unrelenting desire to see us succeed, and release our family from the banality of middle-class life—felt more like a warm rush of motherly support.

  When Mom and I worked together, we were an unbeatable team. “The other kids wasted their gas” was the rallying cry I invented for auditions. The routine was the same. Mom would pick me up from school, OshKosh overalls hanging in the right rear car window paired with a white blouse with a Peter Pan collar. Add red bows to the ends of my long braids, and that was the uniform that had landed dozens of roles already.

  When I saw the outfit swinging in the window, I knew I had no choice—it was time to shine. But I also knew I would be treated like a princess to make sure I was prepped and happy to perform.

  The routine had given birth to a natural competitive spirit. I wanted to win. The pushing, the priming, had taken hold. I loved to succeed, in school, at auditions, anywhere Mom wound me up and set me loose.

  On one unremarkable afternoon just weeks after I’d been thrown out of the car, the day’s audition was for a part in a successful television show set in Midwest in the 1800s. We went through the usual motions: show up, sign in, wait with a dozen other eight-year-olds to be called in and asked to read a few lines of script. But this time, as Mom sat beside me, she seemed unusually alert and expectant.

  When I came out of the audition she was particularly solicitous, which perversely made me hold back. “Was Michael Landon in the room?” Her eyes were wide with hope.

  I had no idea who that was. Clearly the right answer was “yes,” but why not make her work a little? “Who is that?” I asked.

  “You know! Brown curly hair, handsome . . .”

  This meant nothing to me.

  “He’s Pa!” she exclaimed.

  I honestly didn’t know whom she was referring to. I was still trying to figure out why the people in the audition room had made me speak the way they did. Who says “reckin”?

  The day I won that part may have been the highlight of Mom’s life. Our two years on Little House on the Prairie were without question her happiest. There was no reason for me to talk back, or for her to take a
scissor to my favorite shirt in front of me in response. I cried on cue, the adoration on the set enveloped me. Rebukes from Mom were short-lived, lest I show up for work uncooperative. But in truth, we were both so happy there was nothing to struggle over. She woke me at 5 AM to make an early call and we worked well into the evening, but I loved the sense of purpose an acting job gave me, as well as the sense of accomplishment, and, of course, feeling so very special.

  Still, as I look back at those long days when the two of us lived one gilded life, I know that not everyone in our family basked in my limelight. My sister fell deeper and deeper into shadows. I had no idea how she got to and from school during that time. We never saw her.

  CHAPTER ONE

  When I was growing up, people often asked me, “How did you get into show business?” They came up with all kinds of theories and assumptions that were all wrong, like my parents must have been actors, or worked on a production set, or one of them was a talent agent. But Mom loved to tell the real story.

  She had been standing in line at a carnival in West Hollywood with my sister, Tiffany, who was three years old at the time, when a man approached her and gave her his card. He claimed he was a big children’s agent, and said he thought Tiffany was so beautiful she should be on TV. Mom didn’t believe him, she always said, but the offer got her thinking. The following week she set out to discover who represented Rodney Allen Rippy, the most famous child actor of the time. Rodney was making a mint hawking Jack in the Box burgers, and Mom convinced his agent to take on Tiffany.

  When Tiffany had about half a dozen commercials under her belt, Mom took me with them to a shoot. I was less than a year old. I don’t remember the day I earned my Screen Actors Guild membership card. But Mom always described how she bounced me gently to keep me quiet, though I hadn’t made a noise. I was too mesmerized by what was happening to my sister. Tiffany was twenty feet away, soaking in a tub, surrounded by lights, practically drowning in bubbles.

  Tiffany’s long, brown, shiny hair was piled on top of her head, wet strands curling around the base of her neck. She was adorable, but hardly the cheerful toddler the directors were anticipating. Her eyes were wide and timid.

  “Me!” I shouted. Mom flushed as the crew turned and looked at us, and she wished she had left me at home. The director walked in our direction. Now I was going to ruin Tiffany’s first national commercial, she thought. Johnson & Johnson’s No More Tears baby shampoo. Only Gerber had launched more careers.

  “Is this her sister?” the director asked.

  I smiled, flaunting my two new teeth.

  “Yes, I’m sorry,” Mom said. “My sitter fell through. I can take her in another room . . .”

  “How do you feel about putting her in the tub with the other one? Does she sit up well?”

  Mom lit up. “Oh, yes! She’d just love it. They usually bathe together, that’s why Tiffany isn’t smiling.” That and the thirty-five fully clothed strangers watching her.

  Mom said that before she could finish her sentence, six hands had stripped me down and plopped me in the warm sudsy water. I let out a big laugh and slapped the surface of the water, catapulting a perfectly formed bubble to the tip of Tiffany’s round nose. She giggled.

  “Please tell me you were rolling,” the director said to the cameraman.

  Mom always describes it as the moment she knew I would be a star, though I can’t swear to any of it, since I was too young to remember. My earliest actual memory is of my first best friend, Brian. Like most three-year-old friends, we didn’t choose each other. We had older siblings the same age who went to the same schools. We were thrown into the same carpools and played on the floors at the same ladies’ casserole potluck luncheons. I still remember how Brian’s mom’s brown loafers looked standing next to my mom’s tan wedges.

  Brian was a great playmate. He let me have whatever I wanted. He was a keeper. He had soft blond hair that fell in his eyes as we spent countless hours together playing house. Even when he wasn’t there, I pretended he was. He didn’t say much, either in person or in my imagination, making him the perfect match for a bossy, precocious girl like me.

  Brian and I went to a little Presbyterian preschool in Granada Hills, California, that we called Turtle School because of the large turtle that lived on the grass-covered playground. We ran into the yard every morning and force-fed the poor beast dandelions until she escaped in slow motion or just recoiled inside her shell to wait out the storm of toddlers.

  Brian and I were blissfully joined at the hip until the day his mom decided she was a lesbian and ran off with her girlfriend. The whole family moved away from our neighborhood in Northridge to Chicago or maybe the moon. Wherever they went, it was tough forgetting Brian, even though he was virtually mute and his mom had a girlfriend (the latter hardly seemed like a distinction, though Mom kept mentioning it). He silently hugged me goodbye, and I cried like crazy.

  Brian left on the first day of my second year in Turtle School when I was four years old, and I was unusually blue when I got home. I played lethargically in my room in our tract home in the San Fernando Valley. My room was sandwiched between my parents’ bedroom and my sister’s on the second floor of the house. The carpet in our home was a bright Kelly green, which Mom said made it look as if the perky lawn outside extended inside our home. I liked to trim the indoor “grass” with scissors.

  But having recently lost my scissors as a result of some indoor gardening, I wandered down the hall into Tiffany’s room, where she was conducting a kindergarten class with her dolls. I had arrived just in time for reading.

  The green carpet stretched to the far wall of her room, which Mom had covered with pink and green fabric printed with a repeating pattern of bunnies and farm scenes. She’d made two pillows out of the same fabric to throw on Tiffany’s bed. The room was perpetually frozen in a cheerful spring day.

  Tiffany raised her eyes to mine. “Why are you pouting? Beth is gone too, you know.” Beth was Brian’s older sister. I couldn’t consistently count on Tiffany for sympathy.

  “Here, let’s work on my homework.” Tiffany was in first grade now and extremely advanced. She went to San Jose School for the Highly Gifted, which apparently meant she was the smartest person in the universe. I thought that made me brilliant by association. I noticed she tensed her shoulders when Mom sang the name of the school to other adults, emphasizing the words highly gifted as if you wouldn’t notice them otherwise.

  “Sit here,” she said to me. “Here are the words in the sentence. Unscramble them.” I looked at the words on the page. I knew most of them on sight.

  “Here’s a trick,” she continued with the authority of a flight attendant who knows the location of the only emergency exit. “The one with the capital letter goes first.” She pointed at the only word that started with a big letter. Neat trick.

  “The one with the period next to it, that dot, goes last. The rest you have to figure out on your own. No more shortcuts.”

  I looked at the page; there were only two words left! This was so exciting I forgot to grieve over the loss of Brian for a moment.

  “Finish your homework and you can play with my toy,” Tiffany said.

  I glanced at the red Mattel box on the shelf with the picture of Tiffany playing with a car on a ramp on the side. I loved that she was featured on a toy box. This particular piece of packaging was so very special that Mom told us we were not allowed to actually play with it or its contents. But she left the alluring red box on the high shelf in Tiffany’s room, so we’d climb up there and get it as a special treat.

  You could always hear Mom coming down the long hallway. Even though the hall was covered with carpet, the floor creaked in predictable spots. She’d thundered down it so many times to stop us from wrestling over a toy or making a racket that when we heard the first footfall, we knew exactly how much time we had before she reached the bedroom to murder us both.

  This time we were just looking at the toy when the footsteps st
arted. We jumped even though we weren’t technically guilty yet.

  “What are you two doing?” Mom asked.

  “Missy’s doing her homework,” Tiffany said. Mom looked over at me, sitting on the floor with a workbook open in front of me.

  “What’s the assignment?” she asked, as though a four-year-old really could have homework.

  “Unscrabble the words,” I started.

  “Un-scramble . . .” Mom corrected.

  “Yes.” I looked at the page. I was easy and was already a big letter so I knew it went first. Book had a dot after it, so I knew it was last. See was there. That was an easy one too. Jackpot!

  “I see the book!” I said proudly. Perhaps I was also highly gifted. Tiffany looked pleased at having orchestrated this show.

  “Very nice,” Mom said. “Tomorrow, though, no one is going to school. McDonald’s has booked both of you for a national commercial.”

  My sister and I were often booked together because we showed a family resemblance without appearing too much alike. Tiffany was always referred to as “the pretty one.” With her thick brunette hair and heavy brows, she reminded casting directors of a young Brooke Shields, which at the time was a major selling point. By contrast I was always “the cute one,” with my distinctive yellow eyes, a ready smile, and round cheeks. Between us, we had appeared in dozens of commercials already.

  We shot the commercial at a fake McDonald’s on Highland Avenue. Even though the building sat on a major street in Hollywood, the public couldn’t see the production because of a two-story fence that surrounded the lot.

  From the outside, the fake McDonald’s looked like any other McDonald’s, except that it appeared brand-new. Inside, an elaborate maze of greenrooms and production storage bins were set up in the basement to accommodate the constant flood of commercials shot on-site.